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Love vs Infatuation



Love vs Infatuation What,
then, is the elusive thing called "Love" that everyone so
desperately needs? Sometimes, we sort of like this girl
because she is beautiful? Or the girl likes him because he is
handsome? But this kind of "Cinderella Syndrome" when the
girl is waiting on her Prince Charming, is not real love.
It is better known as "Infatuation", and there is a vast
difference between it and real love. Enumerated here below are
the differences. Find out if you are really in love and
not just infatuated.
Infatuation Infatuation is a feeling; real love
involves a commitment also. Infatuation is just love of
emotion. Real love though, is love of devotion. Only the
emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real love
both the Emotions and the Will are involved.
Next, a person "fall into" infatuation, but "grows into"
real love. Gentlemen, have you ever seen a girl who was so
beautiful that you thought you'd faint? This is
infatuation. It is based totally on physical attraction; Often
you don't know much in-depth about the person you
so-called love. Thus infatuation is mostly biological.
Also remember, never tell a woman you love her, unless you
are willing to marry her. Then, infatuation is basically
selfish where real love is basically selfless. Infatuation
is more interested in satisfying yourself and your
"feelings" than it is in the other person.
Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It
seeks to give instead of get. Love unselfishly seeks the
highest good for the other person. Lastly,
infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real
love is strengthened by time and separation. This does not
mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the
contrary, there is great pain in separation if you are
truly in love. Love
Now you understand what is infatuation, let us now go on
to discuss about Love.
1. Love is Patient
The word translated "patient" means to wait patiently for
the fulfillment of expectations. When you have
difficulty dating this girl and she does not want to come out of
her shell, if you truly love her, you will not complain
and blame her, you must look at the situation from her
point of view ? ??? maybe she is having some problems
which prevented her from coming out. You must react to it
with patience and understanding. Have you ever
met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the
relationship and make it progress faster? Sure you have!
Love, however, Love is willing to give the relationship
time to grow at a natural pace. It does not push
but is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at a rate
that is satisfactory to both parties.
1. Love is Kind
Love seeks to encourage and build up on
others. It respects the feelings and emotions
of others. It finds its greatest satisfaction in
making others happy, i.e. Compliment one another, magnify the
other's strength, Listen to one another. Pay close
attention to what each of you has to say and make each
other feel that what each says is important, etc.
1. Love is not Jealous
Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature heart.
Love wants the best for others, but jealousy is
possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish
statement, "If he is going to talk to her, then he can just
forget about me!" Often, one person wants to totally
possess the other and to restrict her relationships with
others.
1. Love is not to Brag
Love is not a windbag and is not anxious to impress.
Often, a guy will brag to a girl, trying to impress her so
that she will like him. A truly great person, however,
does not need to exalt himself. Others will exalt him.
1. Love is not Arrogant
Love is not conceited, boastful, cocky or stuck up. Love,
instead, is humble and has a servant attitude .
Sometimes, a guy may come across to a girl with an "I can take
you or leave you" attitude. His demeanor implies, "You
ought to be thankful that somebody as neat as me is dating
you". Of course this is not love.
1. Love always Covers
This word cover means to pass over in silence, to keep
confidential. Love is patient with faults of others. It
doesn't criticize or broadcast to the world the
faults of others. Love is present even when it
knows the other is not perfect.
1. Love always Perseveres
Love always stands its ground and holds
out . It will outlast anything. It will even love on the
face of unreturned love. Real love will last through all
sorts of trials, tribulations and stresses.
1. Love is not Provoked
This means that love has a long fuse. It does not become
irritated and angry. It is not easily offended. Love
does not seek its own. This is the heart of love. Love is
other-centered not self-centered. Love says, "I
love you, I want to give you." Selfishness says, "I love
you, I want you!"
1. Love does not act Unbecomingly
This means that love does not behave disgracefully,
dishonorably, or indecently. It does not embarrass others
by its actions. It is characterized by tact and
sensitivity. This also means that love should have good
manners. Be sure to do little things like opening doors
for your girl or offering her your arm when you walk
together.
1. Love is Forgiving
Lastly, this is a MUST for a successful love story. If a
guy is not willing to forgive and forget when his
girlfriend is only an hour late, he is not exhibiting
love. Love doesn't hold grudges when it has been
wronged. It doesn't remain resentful.